May 12, 2019

This weekend is a very special time for me.  Two things take place: May 11, Saturday is my birthday and Sunday is Mother's day. Now, my birthday is not the big deal but over the years the dates falling together always were special because I would always stop and call mom from a phone booth, usually as we were on a fishing weekend. 

After mom died in 1984, I was lost when Mother's day came around.  I know so many folks miss their moms horribly, which I can understand thoroughly.  I longed and pined for her for years but that has all changed. I'll tell you why.

Some of my friends, who are no longer spring chickens, are now dealing with very elderly parents. It's a double edged-sword with personal health concerns as well as concerns with their parents' needs. Their parents struggle with hearing loss, immobility, inability to care for themselves and financial concerns. And what about the individuals who have no family to care for them? I can't imagine.  

I know it's hard to not get into a deep state of sadness, tears and depression but there is no gain to get into that mode for me.  It drains me; it is not life giving. Gratitude at the time I did have with mom, and all those memories, is what makes me smile.

I don't wish her back; she was spared the many challenges that can come with infirmities of old age. Even though cancer took her at too young an age of 67 years old I could wish things were different wanting my mom back. Instead, I am so thankful for the memories and time I did have with her. 

So, happy Mother's Day, mom! Thank you for the legacy you left me beginning that first May 11!  I am a better person for being your daughter!  And to all mom's out there, happy Mother's Day to you, too! 

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