Yup, "How are you?" is a question I have been asked many, many times in the past two months? I wonder, "How am I supposed to be: sad? feeling sorry for myself? in a heap of tears?" I really don't know but I read something today that being happy is a decision. And I have made that decision! This is "just for today!"
My past plays a huge part in this decision. I have had two motivators in my life: my mom and my sister in law; both are at opposite ends of the spectrum of coping after their spouse died. One sat on the couch, refused offers to "go", the other never declined any invite. Observing the difference was like night and day.
Yes, I can tap into sadness, loneliness, tears or depression but I would rather have more energy and be happy. It's a decision. Activities, friends, phone calls, meaningful appointments with my spiritual direction business...it all gives me meaning and purpose in my day and life.
Yes, age creeps in and some of my friends have health challenges, which concern me, but for today "there is nothing major going on" is a mantra that helps me stay in the present. Just for today. Tomorrow is a different day but all I have right in front of me is today!
