Nose Job

I'm ready for a nose job! Read on!! Have you ever laid in bed pondering things?  What a question to ask, huh?  Well, last night was one for me, with a new year about here.  I asked myself, "self, what is new this year?" 

Except for changing a number in the year, what's new? The pandemic is old...real old. Winter is winter; taxes are due; other things sure seem the same, so, what's new?

Then I got to thinking about the "inside stuff", you know, inside my spirit, our spirit. Indeed some of those qualities may not be the best; things I want to work on from here on in. Some days I beat myself up, thinking I am not on the right track but with my spiritual director's input I can see that I'm OK, that indeed I am on a track that is very OK.

It is a perspective that comes from another seeing things from a different vantage.  Reminds me of the saying, "as plain as the nose on my own face" but think about it, we can not see our own nose on our own face! 

So, I'm excited to let others see my nose on my face and open to them telling me how they see it! That's what's new!  It's an inside job, willingness to see from another's perspective.

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How about you? You ready for a nose job? What a new year resolution.  Happy New Year to all my family and friends this 2022! 

Christmas

The wait is over.  Christmas is here!  A blessed
Christmas to each of you and your loved ones! From our house to yours.

Waiting

All of us have been waiting: waiting for this virus to be over, waiting for spring, waiting for Christmas, waiting for one thing or another.  Right now, we are waiting for December 25th.  This time waiting for the Christ child to come in the Christian world is called Advent. 

Many, even Christians, don't understand why the churches are not decorated in all the Christmas regalia yet but it has been Advent, until this last Sunday before Christmas.  It is a preparation time for that special day.  It means "coming". So, in two days, that coming of the Christ child will be here and families will be celebrating together. 

One thing I have pondered this year is how challenged many of us are because of the highly transmissible strain of Covid. Many will stay home and not travel; Covid has made life very difficult on many fronts. 

Think about Mary and Joseph, that Child's parents of how difficult their life was trying to find a place to deliver their baby.  Travel was challenging, no room at the Inn, with only a barn stable to take shelter in. They, of all people, certainly understand our challenges. 

So, of what are you awaiting and where is that Christ child, Jesus, in your life right now?  No matter what, that child can be in our heart, giving us Joy, Peace and Love.

 

Merry Christmas to each of you and your family!  God bless you!

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Disaster

 As I watch the evening news my heart is so saddened at what the storms/tornadoes have done to the 6 states in the south, collapsed buildings, places of business and lost lives.  

I cannot imagine for a second what that disaster must be like, not only for the victims but all the teams trying to assist.  

Let us pray, offering a prayer, especially for the families who are grieving tonight. In these times of what divide us, let us come together as one nation with prayers and resources. 

Creator God, we ask you to guide, guard, protect and be with all those involved in the disasters in the south due to weather yesterday. Wrap your arms around all those affected that they may know your love and care during this trying time. Amen

Now Where?

"Where do I go from here?"  Ever ask that question? It could be about road directions or trying to figure out what course of direction in a complex situation that stumps us.  We've all been in this situation; all are different.

This morning I found myself in the same thing, being told to call one department, only to be redirected to another.  That person sounded like he didn't know much either.  I could have blown a cork!

But little by little, it seemed my questions and concerns had gotten to the correct person who was going to clarify the issue with the one who really would know...you know, where "the buck stops here?!" 

Again, like any road in life it's never straight and we may come to intersections, curves, big hills or even buffalos in the road (like in the Black Hills!) but that doesn't mean we check out of the trip.

There always is an option.  Someone will speak in our ear and let us know what to do or where to go next.  So the next time you ask, now, "where do I go from here?" just stay on the line and the answer will come soon.

A Real Story!

Here is a "God story" I hope you enjoy:  A good friend of mine just shared something with me and thinks it would make a good post. I agree.  She was volunteering this a.m. and was thrown a curve ball.  She fought her mouth, wanting to say something curt, inappropriate and/or not very nice. 

I think we have all been in a spot like this.  However, she held her tongue but some of the curve balls kept coming. Her straight line plans went crooked quickly!  Then, on the other end of her trails, the gift in it all became clear when she ran into a dear acquaintance; both were very surprised to see the other.

Looking back it would have been disastrous had she succumbed to her thoughts and let them rule her mouth, having the speaker on her phone for all to hear!!

It's true, each of us fight negative thoughts and at times it's so hard not to give in to them.  However, the more we practice doing the next right thing, whether in word or deed , we may just be rewarded with the "gift" on the other end. This is another "God story" that can happen to each of us if we practice not acting on everything that comes into our brain!  You may have a friend to thank, too, for sharing a good post with you!  Thank you!

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One Candle

One candle is all it takes. On my way home today my next door neighbor was outside on her porch, so I pulled over to visit a few minutes. There were a couple things I wanted to share with her and she updated me on things in her life, too.

Have you ever thought to yourself that after listening to someone else's journey you'll just stick with your own stuff. Too often it is hard to have a grateful heart or a sense of positivity about what we are going through but after she shared things I said, "you know, we certainly learn a whole lot of wisdom from the journey of life that we go through."  She agreed. No school books could teach us what we learn in "The School of Hard Knocks."

I just read a reflection from the Christophers about having a sense of positivity in all that comes our way.  That is a wonderful reminder that no matter what we go through we should use our God-given talents to make a positive difference in the world. Their motto is "It's better to light one candle than to curse the darkness."

Have you ever noticed that whenever you call someone or talk with a person that they light your own day in some way.  So true, also, we can help that other person in their day.  Perhaps we are adding some light in their day, too!  It only takes one candle! Let your light shine on! 

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Last Laugh

Well, God got the last laugh with me today!  Not that anything was funny at all. Here's what happened.

Just about every day I make a list of things I plan to do that day.  Some days I let others in on my plans...and of course, I'm sure God listens as I say these things.  Today was no different. 

Well, the day started out as planned, and to say the least it was going pretty good, until about 9:00 a.m. when I saw several former cohorts from the hospital. I have been waiting for information on a funeral that was pending from someone we mutually know and they informed me "it's this afternoon...."

Oh, my, that certainly wasn't in my "wheelhouse." I had other plans with a pending deadline in four days. Good thing I couldn't sleep last night and worked on it then.  

OK, so, because of Covid, after much pondering, I was hesitant to be among a tight crowd so decided to just catch up with the family at the place of the dinner, instead of the tight quarters inside the funeral home. 

All dressed, just ready to put on my coat, I saw I had missed two phone calls from the same number and listening to the voicemail, returned the call immediately.  Good thing.

One of my very good friends died this a.m. of Covid!! (Yes, she had vaccines but was immunocompro
mised.) And it was said aloud there "is a large spike, worse than ever" in this area! 

Right now, that makes three very close friends who have been fighting Covid.  Thinking twice, I decided not to go to any funeral gathering and with great sadness will explain that to the family of the deceased. I am sad to have missed it but so very grateful thinking a divine spirit, or the angels, kept me safe with situations today.

It's OK if God had the last laugh with me today, thinking I was in charge of my schedule. A good friend's death, another friend's funeral, a spike in Covid worse than before...I'll accept the reality that something, bigger than me, kept me safe from large, tight crowds today.  I guess a laugh can come even when nothing is funny! Better to be safe than sorry.

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A Pretzel

I just returned from a visit at the hospital with my husband...a consultation for nothing major. As we were leaving, a long-time employee and a friend of hers, came out of the gift shop to visit with me. Her friend reintroduced herself to me, having met her many years ago.

She shared memories of when her husband died, had run into me in the hallway there and said I shared a pretzel with her. This was many, many, many years ago!!! To think, a pretzel. She said she could "taste" that pretzel now, as she told me these details. To think, a pretzel!!

In fact, my friend shared something I had said as we often sat at the same table in the cafeteria.  It was a word I often used as a kid when I was afraid..."ascared." We both laughed remembering that conversation! 

Isn't it amazing how one word, one gesture is enough fodder to be recalled so many years later?  I am very thankful these were positive memories because there certainly are enough negative ones I remember, much to my chagrin!

I wonder if the angels in heaven didn't surround me with these two godsends today, knowing the pick-me-up would do me good. I walked away simply amazed thinking to myself "how in the world could I have known then what an impact such a small gesture could make this many years later!"

Just imagine, sharing with someone in the throws of having lost her husband what one pretzel could do!  (Wonder what the whole bag would have done!!) I'm sure there will be a next time with someone!

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Benefits

A newsletter just came from the administrator of the spiritual direction program I got my training at in Arizona, speaking of the challenges of the pandemic yet.  Of course, we all thought this whole mess would be over by now but in reality we may be living with the effects for quite some time.  Lots of challenges and drawbacks but not often do we hear of the benefits. 

Yes, you say, "benefits?" Well, we all have been challenged with the downside of Covid and it hit businesses very hard.  Many clients of mine, who had to travel a bit to get here, certainly couldn't come because of precautions.  Many said, "when this is all over, I'll be back!" 

Every month, every year we all think, "when will this be over?"  If we consider the other side of the coin for a moment, here is what came to mind: distance is not a problem. We can be in a "space" with the click of a button on Zoom, Messenger, Duo and other technology. 

Even in a conference, when small groups are getting together, there is no physical juggling to do getting the environment ready, it's just a click of the button and two or three folks are paired for small group discussion.  Bingo, done! 

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Same with clients coming for spiritual direction.  Never in my wildest dream did I think there would be any benefit of seeing clients over the computer screen but it nearly is as good as in person and saves so much travel time, putting up with the elements, etc. etc. 

So, rather than "waiting till it's all over", if you've considered spiritual direction, distance doesn't have to be a factor at all anymore!  I will be connecting with someone in Ohio in a few days, where I had hesitancy before Covid. Think about it; there really are benefits brought on by Covid!  Feel free to call: 920.793.3530 for an appointment.

BIG MONKEY!

 I just had a BIG MONKEY, more like a Silverback or a Sasquatch, fall off my back! That huge animal has been hanging around my neck for many, many months and my spirit was drooping, sleep was challenged and joy was gone.  It was hard to think about anything else.  Ever have one on your back? 

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Probably so, but we all have  different monkeys with different sizes and names. Various names can fall under categories such as: medical issues, grief issues, financial concerns, fractured relationships...you could name more, but each one of us has had them. 

Sometimes, I think we need to carry that load while we ponder, pray, ponder some more and keep on praying.  One of the monkeys lightened itself the other evening after I had a gentle conversation with my husband about his health. It was many months coming but timing was right, he was receptive and words came. 

Timing is one thing that I have learned over the years, especially when abuse issues are the concern.  Safety is paramount and there are situations that need to be planned out very carefully. 

It's not an easy journey, we suffer in the meantime in many ways, but the divine, good Karma, the Universe, God...you name it...is there for each of us. We must be open and trust that answers will come but be willing to take action at the appropriate time.  These answers never fail to amaze me, especially after that BIG MONKEY is gone! 

Guru

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 The other day, after writing a post, I wasn't able to post it to my personal page.  You would have thought it was my first rodeo navigating my Facebook page but for the life of me, I couldn't find it. For the past few days I have been away from any WiFi so couldn't work on my computer. 

Tonight I called my computer guru, trying to figure things out with her.  Of course, I was thinking the worst, that I had been hacked again.  When it happens once the thought of having been hacked is not far from my mind. 

Well, with just a few adjustments and looking in another spot, there it was, my personal page. There are so many icons on a page and with her kind, helpful words, I found it!  What a relief.

Lately, there have been thoughts going through my head on various situations that sometimes nearly leave me paralyzed with fear.  It isn't until I make a phone call or appointment with a "guru" that the answers come, followed by calm inside me.

What do you do when you run into a glitch in life that, by yourself, you just can't make heads nor tails out of?  We all need a guru to turn to when we run into a dead end trying to solve our issues.  Chaos or calm? Think about it! 

Cat on My Lap!

This morning I was reading the diocesan newspaper in my recliner chair. It was my way of procrastinating working on some paperwork that has been hanging over my head for many months.  In the midst of my reading, hardly without noticing, my two year old furball, Carmel, gently crawled over my right arm and made his way into my lap. Not a peep out of him, he just snuggled in my lap and laid his head over my hand.

Some days when this happens I just look at him and ask, "where did you come from and how did you get up in my lap so quietly...hardly without me noticing!?"  Of course, he just snuggles there, knowing he's got my attention. Yes, I continue to sit!! 

I had just read a column in the paper about our guardian angels and the prayer, "Angel of God, my guardian dear. To whom God's love commits me here. Ever this day, be at my side, to light and guard, to rule and guide. Amen."

This is a prayer I grew up with but often forget about it, as well as my guardian angel. It is a simple prayer but I needed a reminder, which came at a good time for me.  It was a good thing I had a little help, "making me" sit long enough to read the paper thoroughly.  

The phone also rang twice during this time, which now I didn't complain as "distractions."  I also had to notify a company about an order that came that was short an item. All are tasks that could be done with Carmel on my lap! 

Carmel

So, perhaps my guardian angel has been at my side in more ways than I can count guarding and guiding me in many things.  Today, my angel's helper
is Carmel!  What's yours?

Thoughts to Action

Have you even given it a second thought as to how our thoughts can make or break us?  In the book "You are a Badass at Making Money" by Jen Sincero, she goes to great length to explain how strong our thoughts are.  I'm sure we have all heard versions of this same idea in many ways, "if you think you can...if you think you can't"  You know how it goes. 

Well, aside from her incessant use of potty mouth words, she gives so many wonderful examples from real life that it has given me a new energy on taking more time to "listen" to my inner voices and beliefs...my real deep beliefs that have been ruling my life that I may not even be aware of.

It takes effort and determination to become a more rounded, grounded individual. I think, too, that it is a process, albeit, a slow, intentional one that often needs companionship of a well-trained individual, therapist and/or spiritual director but a very rewarding journey, to say the least. 

In the 12-Step Recovery process of Alcoholics Anonymous it is often spoken as to how that program can work for an individual.  It uses the acronym H.O.W. and explains it by saying that our own honesty, openness and willingness is what makes it work. 

That very honesty, openness and willingness comes after many, many times of hearing others share their own struggles and gains to see the miracle happen as they begin to get in touch with what is really going on inside of them; this miracle becomes so rewarding. 

So, it does good to hear the same thing in a variety of ways and the above-mentioned book brings me renewed energy for the old path I have been on for many years. 

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What about you? What thoughts are making or breaking your peace of mind? Let me encourage all of us to take some quiet time to really "listen" to what our thoughts are saying to us.  Our actions will certainly follow, as they have been all along. 

  

Knots

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Have you ever encountered "knots" in your life? There are all kinds of "knots", most
notably, those we get with rope, string, yarn, shoelaces, and things like that but think of life's "knots" and issues that we just can't figure out how to deal with.  Those could fall in various categories such as challenging relationships, health situations, financial concerns...you name it, there are all sorts of knots. Perhaps these knots aren't even clear until we listen to a small, still voice inside us.

Lately, I have been aware of several "knots" I was dealing with and it seems, for the most part, these concerns have just melted away.  Sometimes, the harder a person  tries to find answers the less clear the answers are but little by little beams of light shine and the way becomes clearer.

Talking about things out loud may bring a comment or perspective from a friend that helps. Making a phone call to a relative to update that person about a situation opened the door for me; this all happened quite without warning. 

I do know our faith can help.  For me, the blessed Mother has a title, "the Untier of Knots." This specific prayer, asks her intercession to her Son, Jesus, for our intentions.  It's amazing how many of those tight knots loosened up and answers came. Sometimes the answers came when I least expected, after I listened to a small, still voice suggesting I make a phone call, or to reach out to someone or even to forgive a long-held resentment.  

What does that small, still voice ask of each of us?  What comes to each of us in the quiet of our being?  How is that spirit inside each of us trying to help loosen those knots? That spirit is in each of us.  Our knots can be loosened! Are you listening to that spirit?

1000 Piece Puzzle

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So many folks just love sitting and putting puzzles together; some even love doing the 1000 piece ones; not me, though!  However, life has dealt me one in the past months and I have been sitting with it, just pondering how to put it all together.  

Now, my husband, Jerry loves the 300 piece ones and he has explained his strategy as well as sitting hours with him as he just patiently looks everything over, finally finding a piece here and there.  Nothing is fast though.

Life is like that lately and days I think I have made no progress on my puzzle because of just sitting and looking at the different options someone says something to me that brings some light or clarification and then it's as if a couple things fit in.

My sister, Deb, just asked tonight about my concerns and reminded me how I was paralyzed with fear only a couple weeks ago and now some things were falling into place.

Amazingly, a person pointed me in a good direction and with some phone calls I have an interview next week.  That will help, too, in dealing with my concern...another piece to the puzzle, making this thousand piece monster take shape a bit more. 

Of course, there was a saying to the effect that in order to get muddy waters to clear, we only had to let the water sit quietly for a while.  It's amazing what happens with that quieting.  Helpful thoughts come in; someone says something with a suggestion; or a resource person hands you a piece of paper with phone numbers to call.  

Yes, it's not fast, but that huge puzzle in life, whatever it is, is no stranger to many of us with our various situations and challenges, but there is a divine force in the universe for each of us to call on. It may not seem like any answers come, it may be so slow, but eventually it will all come together...piece by piece!

Heartache

My heart aches as I watch the dignified transfer for the thirteen service members at Dover Airforce Base. Such a difficult day! This final journey home for those individuals brings pause for what they went through and now what their family and friends are experiencing; probably their most painful experience ever! So young, the oldest one being only 31 years old! 

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Let us extend our deepest condolences to their family and friends as well as our prayers of support. Thank you to each one for their service to our country! A huge heartache for so many! God bless each of them and God bless the USA.

Music

I have been facilitating a caregivers support group at church for several months, and following the lead from the previous two facilitators I bring a topic of focus.  This month, however, my well was dry as to what  topic to focus on. 

Last night I woke up with a song in my head, "I will not leave you comfortless" by Jan Phillips.  This YouTube piece just melts my soul and connects me to a much higher plane every time I listen to it. For me it is mesmerizing.  It refreshes my spirit.

Morning came too soon, though.  Figuring I may as well get my handbooks together, at least I could peruse through them, just in case something struck my fancy.  Of course, these days before the group I do pray asking for inspiration and guidance from God; I'm hollow on my own.

OK, to the point!  I opened up the workbook and the topic was "Music" and how it can help us in the caregiver role!  Yes, I'm not kidding..."Music!"  Of all things!  I shared with the group this entire scenario, my struggles and what came this morning. 

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"I will not leave you comfortless

I will not leave you alone.

I am the air you breathe in

I'm the light of every star and every dawn."

Repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat!  

What a reassuring message for all of us!

A cat!

I am sitting here trying to catch up on paperwork, writing posts and quiet work that I easily procrastinate doing.  I would rather paint the broad side of a barn with a 12" paintbrush than do this kind of work!  And then in the middle of it, my ginger cat, Carmel, quietly crawls up on my lap, turns this way and that and now is snuggled on my lap as I type!!! He knows how to stop me in my tracks when I am ready to put the computer down and "run away!"

So, here I am typing another post!! I always hope you enjoy my posts and even share them with others. Some days I have no idea what to share but hope that everyday topics will connect with you in your journey of life. 

These everyday topics are what folks bring to spiritual direction, looking at any deeper awareness that comes to them.  I remember a comment my sister made to me one day after she read a post:  "Molly, when I see ducks walking across the street I only see ducks walking across the street but you can always make a story out of it...seeing a much deeper message in it all!"

Yes, spiritual direction, sitting with a spiritual director, helps us see a much deeper reality in what we bring into that time together. We often cannot see those perspectives alone and with someone (a trained spiritual director) trained in deep listening and reflection, doors in one's spirit open up.

Lapcat Carmel

Sometimes it opens with a gentle question or comment.  One thing I know is that with the help of the divine in this time together, there is a carryover of positive benefits we cannot even imagine until we experience it personally.  Try it! You might like it! An hour with a spiritual director, like a cat sitting on your lap, may be just the ticket your spirit needs! It's only a phone call away: 920.793.3530 

Traffic Lights

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Just about every day I go to visit my husband at the facility he is a resident in. From here to there I encounter traffic lights, which are not necessarily anything too interesting to get excited about!  However, have you ever thought about how a message of "stop and go" can be a large part of our lives?

Think about it...How often do we get into a snit because things are not going our way...yet? There is a huge issue that has kept me in a "holding pattern" for many months until this week; finally a breakthrough came!  Sometimes we hesitate to get started on a project because all the details are not in place to our satisfaction. 

Well, what does all this have to do with these traffic lights.  This is my observation:  Have you ever counted the number of times the yellow flashing light blinks before the red light comes on?  At one intersection the yellow light flashes fourteen times, which from point A to that intersection gives me plenty of time to make it! 

Often, looking way down the block, the light may be red but with the appropriate speed, by the time I get to that intersection, the light turns green..."go". So, translate these yellow, red and green lights to life's circumstances!

We can sometimes get into a mindset that we are not even going to begin a project, or we give up before we have started because we are discouraged, thinking the worst in our mind. There are times we have to look ahead, change our speed but in reality, it may be best to continue on, even though we can't see that life will probably turn out just fine. 

See, it's not necessary to get into a frazzle that the stop lights of life have slowed us down or even stopped us once in awhile.  Maybe we will get through the intersection when we get to it after all; so what if we need to stop for a while.  It will still work out! It's all in the timing!!  

Train Trestle

Recently, I met with a friend and his pastor to discuss funeral plans for the future.  It was a grand two hours together. The pastor and I were talking about some memorable experiences we had had.

I then shared how I did a graveside service, overlooking a river and train trestle.  The wife, who was suffering from dementia,  was a patient on the floor when her husband had died and even though I was called when he died, there was no conversation from her at all. No other family came that night.

The daughter wanted as minimal a service as possible and that was paramount.  I didn't even meet with them prior; it was a very strange situation, believe me!

Indeed, scripture readings were minimal, I had no words to offer under the circumstances...and just then, in the distance, a train went over the railroad trestle and blew its horn. The setting was very pastoral overlooking the river and hospital; the sounds were very soothing.

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Something prompted me to ask, "does anyone have any words you would like to share?"  I got a very stern look from the daughter in great disapproval!

With that, the wife, with dementia, spoke up very peacefully, and exclaimed, "he would have loved this spot...and to hear the train whistle blow...he loved trains!"  These were the first and only words I heard her say!

That was the whole reflection, eulogy, whatever you want to call it. I would call it the divine spirit stepping right in and setting everyone straight that we can try real hard to control a lot but we may not be in charge!  I'm sure glad I was not in charge that day...one major funeral I'll never forget. Amazing what a train trestle can do!

Remember Her?

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 Many years ago during my chaplaincy days I had visited a nursing cohort's father who was dying in the hospital.  Her mom was there; sadly, she had an advanced stage of dementia. Since my own nephew had died I have always worn a circular neck medallion that says, "faith, family, friends." I had it on when I met her mom in the hospital that day. 

It was dead of winter; her dad died; and I made my way to the funeral home to attend the wake.  Of course, a blizzard was raging but you might say I had no brains in my head or I would have stayed home.  Nothing much stands in the way of me attending a funeral or visitation. 

I walked in to a scarce setting with the family lined up across the front.  For the time of evening, the place should have been filling up.  Her daughter met me as soon as I came in saying, "the deacon can't make it because of the weather, you can do the service?"  I don't know if it was a question or a statement! 

Of course I could do it; I really was happy to oblige but when she took me to meet her mom again, she said, "I'll introduce you but she probably won't remember you," which I figured too!

Well, as I bent over to take her hand with introductions, her daughter said, "mom, you may not remember Molly when she came in the room last week."  At that point, looking at my medal she said, "oh yes, you wore that when I saw you, "faith, family, friends." Oh, my! A very profound reality of this impact on her! 

I have a couple of stories like this and think to myself, "how will we be remembered?" What word, phrase, article of clothing, smile/gesture will make a person's day? Some windows of capability are often nearly closed, as in dementias, but we never know what crack of awareness will touch their heart!  How will each of us be remembered?

Electrical Cord

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So many of you have commented on my posts, which I appreciate immensely.  Now, consider passing this along to your friends so they can be inspire. Thank you in advance!

Here's another true story. I recently have read that when we thank God for blessings received more blessings come our way. 

My neighbor is a "jack of all trades" and was going to secure an electrical cord behind our shrine. I was just going to put electrical tape on it.  In the middle of this little project I had to leave for an appointment.  I found a most unusual reality when I came home!

He had replaced more than one electrical wire, new plugs and even buried it all underground instead of letting it hang like it had been.  This was a completely professional fix, much more than I would ever have imagined!

Plus, during my "inspection" his wife said, "your statue of Mary needs a paint job...I will do that Monday!" She loves painting and refurbishing.  To think that this grotto that my husband's dad built in 1955 was getting a completely new going over has brought me to tears and more gratitude.  Yes, I had a little chat with God immediately and continue my thanks this morning.  

If situations like this have never happened to you, consider some quiet time to have a little "chat" with God, reflecting on what blessings, however small or great, have come your way. Open the eyes of your heart to take in what more comes your way when you least expect it. God is any everyday God and offers more awesome realities even more than fixing an electrical cord!

July 4

July 4, 2021 will be here shortly.  It gives me pause to think about my own freedom and how my freedom comes with the help of others.  I look at the news and know without our military and democratic way of life, we wouldn't have the freedoms we do.

I remember a trip I took in 1994 to Europe, staying in Vienna.  I had my movie camera and was taking pictures but police across the street promptly came over and told me not to take pictures.  And he said it in no uncertain terms.

Even at that time I thought it strange to be squelched like that; nothing like that would ever happen in the USA! We take so much for granted in the areas of speech, actions and living. Only when we travel the world do we see the difference. 

 So, this 4th of July, consider pausing a moment to consider, and be grateful, for all the ways you and your family experience various freedoms in your daily life.  

Also, it is a time to be considerate of those who have been traumatized because of war, are ultra sensitive to the fireworks and noises this time of year brings.  Consider time of day, area of those individuals and the fact that not all appreciate these loud celebrations. I thank you and they will thank you! A blessed 4th of July to you and your family.

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Grass, Laundry, Dust

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 Yes, grass, laundry, dust!  What do they all have in common?  Let me continue.  I mowed
grass 6 days ago, hoping to beat the rain, which didn't amount to a hill of beans. I wore my oldest clothes to mow, dig dirt and other outdoor work. Dust?  How does that all fit in? 

Well, it's six days later, it has rained just enough to spur the grass on and my clothes are ready to walk!  But dust? Yup, dust. 

I have not made friends with a dust rag for quite some time and in spots I will not point out to you, it is really getting to be quite a sight, to the point that  when my sister comes to visit, I do not want her reporting me to social services!! LOL! 

This leads me to one more thing, which just popped into my head...resentments.  Yes, they fit in here too, but you ask, wondering how this all ties together. 

OK, the answer:  Grass keeps growing and it needs to be cut again and again, as does laundry needing to be washed. Dust, too, just keeps on getting dustier and dustier until it gets our attention eventually.  Thank goodness for visitors.

But resentments?  Yes, they just keep building and building and we keep acting out in various ways because of them.  Resentments are a number one killer that keeps us tied to unbecoming behaviors, addictions and other things until we identify them and face them head on. 

We often need help with the grass, laundry and dust and so too, with our resentments. It's amazing how our spirit feels after we have cleaned up our messes, whether it's grass, laundry, dust or resentments! I know someone who knows how to help deal with the resentments, too!

Perspective

Have you ever had anyone put things in perspective for you?  Yup, after my last little post as I was whining that someone took/stole my homade "for sale" sign, as I had hostas and ferns on the curb, a friend of mine made one little comment that helped me get out of my crankiness. 

Then I remember reading a sign several years ago: "A lump in your mashed potatoes is not the same as a lump in your breast!" And if a little stolen "free" sign tips me upside down too much, something isn't quite right!  

You bet.  There are bigger things to be upset about. After all, no one stole my identity, no one stole my good name, reputation or anything else!  There certainly is a difference, isn't there? 

What are the things I CAN be grateful for? There's plenty! Excess flowers are gone; shared with the taker; grass is mowed and long enough to fight the drought; friends who care enough to come over and share a fish dinner and watch TV awhile!  There really is nothing worthwhile to crank about...it's all perspective, isn't it!

KNOCK

It has been a hot one the past several days and being gone during that time I was worried about my plants dying because of lack of rain. I had pondered calling someone to water but didn't want to bother anyone.

However, it happened again!  Another "gift."  As I was unpacking the car this afternoon I heard a gentle knock at the back door. It was the neighbor boy who wants to mow my grass but he didn't talk about the grass, he simply said, "is there anything I can help you with?"

Oh my goodness!  My heart melted because I also was wondering today if I should call a friend 4 blocks away to help me lift the A/C into the bedroom window. That's the first thing I thought of when he asked me but I couldn't get the  A/C out of the closet yet. 

So, I asked if he would be so kind and water the flowers.  He had never watered flowers before so I showed him.  He even asked about others in the yard that I never thought of. He will come later this eve and we will do the A/C but I have a few things to do first.  

This morning I sat in my rocker on the deck and marveled at God's creation and thanked Him for it all. I ran out of time and wasn't able to finish all the yardwork that I wanted to do but expressed gratefulness to God for all that was there to enjoy. I wonder if He heard me?

And then the knock on the door; I bet He did!  It's the first time ever this neighbor has come over and offered to help.  I don't have a question about Who heard what; I know! Has this ever happened to you? 

Remember: "coincidence...God's way of remaining anonymous!"  Have you ever had some chores that needed an extra hand to help you and you just didn't know where to turn? Or has there been an issue or situation in your life that you didn't know how to sort out? 

Have you ever had someone on the other side of the door who knocked and said, "Is there anything I can help you with?" Maybe it was the neighbor but maybe Someone bigger than the neighbor inspired him(her) to offer to help! Amazing...grace!!

A Jungle

May was "no mow May" month and I tried hard to not mow but got sympathy from a neighbor who anonymously did the good deed!  I then got the name of someone who wanted a mowing job so I called him. My yard really has begun looking like a jungle.

He came Friday and instead of mowing saw the poor shape of my entire yard, offering suggestions, telling me his past experiences; he jumped right in to digging weeds and separating flowers!  I couldn't believe his excitement and acting like this yardwork was play to him!

Have you ever received a "gift" that fell out of heaven into your lap and  marveled again at God's goodness?  This has been happening to me a lot lately. 

Yesterday he saw my cedar trees and being taller than I am he had to duck just walking in the yard.  These never caught my attention like it did him!  But, he was so excited to cut limbs and branches I thought he was cutting all the trees down; you should see the piles of branches he tied up for disposal!

He has worked 6 hrs. in a couple of days and the yard is till not cut nor edged, but you should see how the "jungle" parts of the yard are looking; my heart soars like a hawk!

My life, too, sometimes looks like a jungle.  Often I don't even realize it. When situations creep up on me from behind, it isn't until someone else says something, or with my own spiritual director, a word or situation will be reflected back to me that awareness occurs.

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I walk away amazed at how God has been working in my life. Has this ever occurred to you? Have you ever considered connecting with someone who could be this gift in your life, especially in a jungle!! Think about it. 

Home

There's no place like home!  I just returned from a wonderful three day jaunt with a college roommate and good friend. She has family in west Chicago so we combined the trip to see a museum and outdoor park with family visits.  It was grand.

I have wanted to stop at a favorite store for Greek olive oil at the border so we were both in hog heaven.  We saw the Ikea store coming and going but decided it was so huge we needed to make it another day to lollygag there. 

Now, reality must hit and I begin making my lists again for what needs to be done this week on a daily basis: work in the yard, get some groceries, pick up something in storage, write bills.

I sit here writing this post and even at that am thinking that I really should take my suitcase upstairs and act like I am home! This is Memorial Weekend and the rest of the world is taking a long few days to vacation somewhere.

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This time is not one of rejoicing nor celebrating like it was Christmas but one thing that is appropriate to do is to honor and mourn all those in the military who have died in action while serving in the United States Armed Forces. 

I choose to have a "staycation" and not go anywhere.  Like my dad used to say, "happy as a pack o' hounds full of rabbit!" I will take these few days to stay put and to realize there's no place like home!  

A Book

I just read a book given to me by a very good friend.  One thing in it said, to the effect that, it's not so much what happens to us on the outside but what happens to us on the inside.  That really got my attention. Have you ever had so much on your mind that the future got closer and closer to you that without even getting to those bridges you were crossing them already?!

The "what if's" creep in, doomsday thoughts...you name it. And, who knows what might happen in the meantime, it may not be the scenario in real time at all! It's at times like this that I need to hold myself by the tail and stop this kind of thinking and catastrophizing. 

Taking stock of what's right here and now helps.  Being grateful helps. Living in the present helps. Praying helps. It even helps to call a good friend especially in the wee hours of the night when a panic attack hits out of the blue.  If there isn't a good friend who is up at that hour, it just might help to get up, turn all the lights on and realize the nightmare is over, that reality is right here and now.

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 Yes, our reaction and what goes on inside of us can tip us nearly over but there are things each of us can do to get back to center. Lots can go on outside of us but what can each of us do to keep our insides in good company?  I'll read that book again:  "The boy, the mole, the fox and the horse" by Charlie Mackesy. Excellent!

 

India

I just heard on the news today that "herd immunity" will not be achieved because of the hesitation of so many to receive the vaccine. Then I see what is happening in India, the sights and sounds, the horrific suffering there! To think, 120 deaths per hour there!  Yes, that could be us right here!

So many folks, when I ask them if they have been vaccinated, also try to encourage others to "just go get it" but the resistance is so high. No one ever resisted this way when polio threatened in the 1950's.  

Wearing a mask, social distancing, avoiding large crowds, etc. etc. is really getting old.  Do I tell those who have not been vaccinated to stay away? What is the answer? Of course, there is the camp that believes the science, but others make up their own theories. 

If the numbers spike in the USA every unvaccinated person has a responsibility in these deaths!  What will it take for these individuals to change their mind and get vaccinated? Yes, we could be the next India.

Freedom

Yes, each of us has the freedom to decide to be vaccinated or not, however, with each decision we make, there is a consequence.  Sometimes, the risk to get the shot is greater than the rewards, of course, and this has to be weighed, especially those who are advised against it for medical reasons. 

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I just got home from trying to visit my husband in a local facility, only to be met by others leaving explaining it was just shut down because of covid...an employee who was not vaccinated.

Then I think of the number of residents in that facility who now, once again, cannot have visitors.  How many residents are there? I don't even know. But I do know that about half of the employees are not vaccinated.  They also have the upper hand over management because of the shortage of workers.    

Now, because of  ONE PERSON, one person mind you, MY FREEDOM to visit, to support a family member, has been taken away from me! I am not alone.  There are others in different situations, perhaps waiting to transfer there, who may be blocked because the facility may not be able to take new admissions because of lockdown.  I'm not sure. 

There is a ripple effect to how freedom works.  It is not a single thing but it reaches all shores like a bolder thrown into the middle of a pond!  Yes, not a pebble in the ocean, but a boulder into a pond.  This is a huge repercussion...huge! 

What will it take to encourage others to get vaccinated?  I don't know.  They do have the freedom to decline but I wish they would think about others that are harmed and their freedom is denied because of this one decision! 

"Thinking of You!"

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"I'm thinking of you!" This statement has brought me wonderful feelings, coming from callers on the other end of the phone.  I have learned to say it too, which opens the conversation to whatever the other person wants to talk about.

There are many times in our lives that questions and probing is too invasive, plus there just might not be time to really share what's going on in one's life. Timing may be poor.

This reality is not something I have always been conscious of but in the past several years it got my attention especially when one day got worse than the next and there were times I couldn't keep up with myself, let alone update caring friends. 

And indeed, friends and acquaintances alike were concerned, caring and meant well; this was obvious.  Sometimes, a single meal, a card, a kind gesture of shoveling snow or mowing grass is what's needed...and so appreciated.

However, thank goodness for answering machines to  take a message when the phone can't be answered, to hear that warm sound that says, "I was just thinking of you!" These are words that warm the cockles of my heart!!

 

"Thanks a Million!"

This past week has been extraordinary. Many "God stories" have occurred ;too many details to share here but yesterday and today two folks stopped me in my tracks as I thanked them for something very special they did for me. I simply said, "Thanks a million!"

I bought a handicap van yesterday and the salesman said that in the course of our time together I had thanked him 3 times with this phrase saying, "it must be the phrase of the day!" And this afternoon I said it while picking up my husband's birthday cake from a friend who gifted him with it! 

 I chuckle as I looked up it's origin, finding that it is an Irish saying.  Yup, got some Irish in me, as well as a lot of Ohio, too! Then, seeing all the birthday cards you have sent him, my heart overflows a million times at your kindness, generosity and willingness to send a card. 

In the movie, "Dances with wolves" the old Indian, at one point exclaimed, "my heart soars like a hawk" but for me when my heart overflows, the first thing that comes out is, Thanks a million!" 

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So, rather than replying to each comment on Facebook, collectively, allow me to repeat myself again..."Thanks a million!" Jerry has enjoyed reading all your cards, comments and well-wishing, so much.  You made OUR day! 

Bird nests

Tis the season for bird nests.  This next month the yards will be teaming with birds coming north for the season.  I love this time of year, as do many of you.

The sky is even filled with wonderful sites as the Canadian geese fly north in formation; it's as awesome a site in spring as it is in fall. 

However, I heard something at a meeting recently that really caught my ear: "You can't keep the birds from flying overhead but you can keep them from nesting in your hair!" I don't know about you but lately I have had lots of birds flying overhead, trying to nest in my hair! 

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Yes, this is a metaphor for all that gets to us, things that worry us, crises that occur, days that are filled with one challenge after another. Your life ever look like this? 

Well, as I was sharing some things with my sister she said, "well, you're doing it...taking one day at a time."  Mainly, I think, is that  most turmoil is in our minds, those thoughts that swirl and grow and become mountains of boogy-man scenes. Continuing this pattern are the nests that can turn us upside down. 

So, for today, I am just watching those beautiful creatures flying overhead, hearing their voices sqaucking their presence, looking for their mates and nesting sites.  Some fly low, checking me out, but none have nested in my hair lately!  Hope not yours, either!

Tomorrow

The best kept secret is out!

You are invited!

Topic:   Spiritual Direction: What it is and why seek it for yourself.

When:   March 19, 2021

Time:    1:00 p.m.

Where:  Virtual. St. Peter the Fisherman Parish, Two Rivers, WI, Facebook or YouTube

Presenter:  Molly LaFond, Spiritual Director

Tomorrow

This afternoon I had it all figured out:  I would go to the pharmacy, the credit union, drop something off at a friend's house, pick up some groceries, and one last stop.  All neat and tidy; it would be one big circle and the day out and about would be all done! Voila!

Well, so much for my plans!  I think someone once said, "just tell God your plans" and see what happens at that point! (Something to this effect!) 

Of course, I called my friend and in the middle of the sentence, as he saw his nephew come down his road, he said, "tomorrow will work out better!"  Yes, my plans for all my errands will work tomorrow, too, but I was all set to go out the door, now!  

I wonder if God doesn't get a good chuckle watching all of us try and be in charge of our lives especially when the train changes tracks in the middle of the road.  I'll bet it's a sight to watch his creatures (us) when we think we have things all planned out.

How often does this happen:  daily, weekly and monthly for one thing or another.  Even our prayers being answered.  Sometimes it's "yes", "no" or "not yet." Oh, how hard it is when those answers don't come as we want. 

 Ever try to just say to  God, "Thy will be done, not mine."  Sometimes I get cranky...but it does work.  Tomorrow will be a good day too, to do my errands! Not the way I figured today but it will work.