I remember a couple of times, still not "getting it" I simply said, "am I doing OK?" She smiled and said I was doing great, so I kept talking. This continued one appointment after another. I kept returning to her because it felt good to talk, be heard and I was uplifted afterward. There wasn't anything I didn't talk about. Once in awhile she would ask me a question or two that helped me see where the divine was in it all.
Pondering all this with the friend I was sharing this with, I told her this was sort of like when I want some light in a room. I just go to the light switch and flip it on. I have never questioned the details of how the wiring goes in order to make that light come on. I never questioned the details of what makes spiritual direction work...I just know it does! So, when I think I need details, I simply say "flip the switch...the light will go on!"