Massage For the Spirit

Many of us have had a back or body massage, some simply for relaxation, others for therapeutic reasons; sometimes the body just needs the assistance of a capable person to work knots and kinks out that keep getting our attention. 

I had a most wonderful massage, my third one in three weeks. Today after the massage,  the therapist and I had leisure time to just sit and visit. In the process she expressed interest and asked about spiritual direction, what it was, what I did, etc. etc. Her smart phone allowed us to look at a couple of my blog posts which she said she enjoyed reading. 


Then she had an "ah ha" moment verbalizing out loud, "so, spiritual direction is really like a massage for the spirit!"  Well, what a new way to express something so simple!  I encouraged her to begin reading my blog, from the beginning, for history of spiritual direction, more about me and my training at http://desertrenewal.org/hesychia-sd-school/ as well as reading my web pages.

She also had never heard of spiritual direction. I am realizing this is often the case, so this "best kept secret" now may not be such a secret in the future!  I hope she shouts it from the rooftops! If you or someone you may know could benefit from a spiritual companion to help "massage your spirit" consider an hour of spiritual direction. 


If you would like to know more, or would like to do spiritual direction with me, please check my website: MollyLaFond.com or call me for an appointment. 

Today's Meditation

Meditation for the Day

The kingdom of heaven is also for the lowly, the sinners, the repentant. "And they presented unto him gifts--gold, frankincense, and myrrh." Bring your frankincense--the consecration of your life to a worthy cause.  Bring your myrrh--your sympathy and understanding and help. Lay them all at the feet of God and let Him have full use of them.''

Prayer for The Day

I pray that I may be truly thankful on this Christmas day.  I pray that I may bring my gifts and lay them on the altar. 
                                               from: Twenty Four Hours a Day 


I am a spiritual director, taking new clients at this time. If you would like to make an appointment with me for spiritual direction, call 920. 793.3530.  If you would like to subscribe to my blog see: MollyLaFond.com

Merry Christmas 2016

MERRY CHRISTMAS 2016

This year the Salvation Army kettles are not filling up which has that organization alarmed, thinking they will not be able to assist those who will need it this coming year. Last evening on the news the Packers' football team in Green Bay announced how the Packers assisted in raising money for the Salvation Army, to the tune of over $100,00!  

Today, I reflect how amazing that was, however, if each of us gave what little (or lots) we could throughout the year we could practically erase the panic when a crisis occurred. I know this is a pipe dream but this time of year brings out the best in people! 

My wish for each of you is that this  coming 2017 will be the best ever for you and for your loved ones. May you share that "best" with those in need, knowing how God shared his "best" with us. God's gift of His Son has brought light into many dark areas of life.  May you too, bring light into lives of those with whom you will be this holiday season!

Merry Christmas to you and yours!


I am a spiritual director and taking new clients. If you would want to do spiritual direction with me, contact me at: 920.793.3530 If you would like to subscribe to my blog, see: MollyLaFond.com

Winter Solstice

OK, this is what we've all been waiting for!! The longest night of the year.  We can all sleep until we start to grow to the mattress! Actually, don't you wonder if many of us don't really look forward to this "dark" day because we know that now the days will get longer...and not as dark?

What in our lives gives us that hope that during dark times in our lives personally that eventually the light will come.  Maybe that's what this Christmas season is all about: knowing Someone came for each of us to bring light into our lives. 


I am a spiritual director and if you would like to make an appointment for spiritual direction, call me at 920.793.3530. You may also subscribe to my blog by clicking on: MollyLaFond.com

Waiting

Waiting? Waiting for what? Well, today, many of us are waiting for this present snowfall and cold weather to get over and done with before we go out. Personally, it is a time to do other things inside that I have procrastinated doing for a while, including Christmas decorating. 

On a spiritual level, though, the Christian world is waiting for Christmas.  These four weeks before Christmas, called Advent, is a time to prepare ourselves spiritually for that special day, knowing "Christ is the Reason for the Season." We are encouraged to spend more time preparing ourselves spiritually during this time, maybe considering attending mass or praying a bit more, compared to our usual. 

Many  of us find ourselves busier than normal. Expectations become high. Sometimes there are family conflicts  while preparing for the holiday get-togethers.  With all that transpires during these weeks of preparation, spiritual direction may be a consideration, having a companion with whom you can process all these things with, assisting you with what is going on inside of your spirit.  

Waiting is a very profound time; the Blessed Mother certainly knew that! If you are desiring to process all that is going on with you this holiday season, or this winter season and would like a spiritual companion to assist you, consider calling for an appointment for spiritual direction. It might be the best gift you could give yourself!


Season's Greetings to you and yours!


I am a spiritual director and am taking new clients.   If you are interested in doing spiritual direction with me, call 920.793.3530. To subscribe to my blog see: MollyLaFond.com

"60 Seconds of Terror!"

This morning a most horrific attack occurred in Columbus, Ohio on the campus of The Ohio State University when an assault occurred injuring nine. The suspect was killed. 

In this month of November, gratitude is often spoken of.  There is much to be grateful for in this situation on campus: first responders, campus police, the Columbus police, FBI, staff of OSU and others in their quick response to the call within a minute. Their actions, according to the Ohio governor, will "be a lesson to campuses all across America!"

Let us share a moment of prayer of gratitude, along with prayers for those injured, their families and friends. The suspect, his family and all those troubled with intentions of harming others also need our prayers, that they find God's peace in troubled times. 

Please share this post with your family and friends. Perhaps each one of us can help one other person with our prayers. When others know we are praying for them, I do know how that lifts them up, giving them strength and hope to not give up in their own struggles.  Prayers are very powerful; we are not helpless! 

 (OSU) Buckeyes

Fighting the dark forces can be accomplished in ways we may be surprised at if we would give our persistent effort!  Thank you! And God bless the students, families, friends and staff involved at The Ohio State University today!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Lake out There!

A friend and I were visiting over a cup of coffee, when I noticed something outside, through the brush and trees.  It was the little lake on the neighbors' property out back, glittering with the sunlight bouncing off it. I excitedly pointed it out to her when she said, "I didn't know there was a lake back there." 

She had to scoot over on the couch to get the same vantage point I had in order to see it, at first not able to see the reflection; then she saw it. This little pond of water, probably only a refuge for water foul, has offered me this view since the trees and brush have been stripped bare this fall. It easily could be missed!

This shimmering little lake makes me smile! It reminds of situations in our life that we can't see, those times when we need someone else to point details out as well as needing to "scoot over" on the couch of life to get a better view.  If I hadn't pointed this scene out, had not taken the time nor had the patience, this moment would have been lost. My friend would still not realize there's a lake out there. 

How many times do each one of us miss the "lake out there?" Sometimes we might prefer the beauty of springtime or the full foliage of summer however, how many of us have the patience and willingness to look through all the "trees and brush" of a person's life who are different from us: political views, religious affiliations, sexual orientation, skin color, etc. etc.? Can you just imagine what an exciting day it could offer if each one of us took the time to ask that person to share their viewpoint, and then really take it all in?  Wonder how rich that visit would be?  

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I am a spiritual director, taking new clients. I am able to see clients in either Two Rivers or Crivitz, WI. To make an appointment or discuss spiritual direction call 920.793.3530. To subscribe to my blog, see MollyLaFond.com

It's a Miracle!

Have you ever met someone who was an absolute delight to be around: a warm smile, a gleam in the eye, as if their whole insides were filled with inner magnets? Just being around them made your day. Have you ever felt this way yourself? Have you ever wondered what they do to have such a demeanor? 

I have had the blessed opportunity to watch individuals over a period of time coming for spiritual direction. Folks come and talk about a myriad of things; no two are the same. It's as if a miracle is occurring in their spirit. And then they share something to the tune that life is going quite well, and even when there might be curve balls in their day, they are living a very peace filled life.  

Their are times when I'd like to pat myself on the back and smile to myself (you know, maybe taking a little credit), until I think back over time and then I realize that I did nothing but allow the spirit (I call the Holy Spirit) space to make a difference in the seeker's life. 

There are many different ways of working a spiritual program. One in particular is the 12 Step Program but even if a person is in a 12 Step program spiritual direction is a great gift! 

There is one similarity between the two: both allow the participant time to speak with no advise giving!  And like a miracle, walking out of either meeting, a person feels like a balloon filled with helium; so much lighter than before! Hard to explain but amazing to experience! If this is something you might consider for yourself, why not give me a call! 


If any of my posts have inspired you, I invite you to share them with your friends!

I am a spiritual director and have offices in both Two Rivers and Crivitz, Wi. I am taking new appointment at this time.  If you would like to make an appointment for spiritual direction, call 920.793.3530.  To subscribe to my blog see: MollyLaFond.com

It's Raining!

It's raining today and in no uncertain terms.  It's cold, damp and windy as well. Finally, we turned our furnace on in the house as well as turning heat on in the car while driving! Thoughts of bundling up, "running away" to a warmer climate and figuring out how to deal with cold weather enters my mind! 

Some days I wonder if I'm up to the task but honestly, I think all of us have had better experience dealing with these things than we give ourselves credit for. Why should a bit of chilly weather throw us a curve ball?  We can do it!

Ever think of character defects?  You know, those nasty behaviors that rear their heads when we least expect, that others sometimes notice even before we do:  low self esteem, defensiveness, etc., etc!  Now, this is a situation that many of us would like to stick our heads in the sand over, ignore and deny.

I don't know that this is anything to get too scared about but I do know how heartwarming it is to have a companion with whom to process these things with, allowing us to talk, share and to bring the behaviors into the light.  Some refer to these parts of ourselves that are hard to recognize as our "shadow."  Spiritual direction is a wonderful arena for making friends with our shadow.  It's a safe and gentle atmosphere in which to look within with someone who is there to listen and support us while we do this inner work.  It's quite a gift we can give ourselves!  


So, let it rain!  With proper tools to keep us dry, it's nothing to be feared. A walk in the rain or a drive in the rain can be a very rewarding trip! Whether it's raining outside or storming inside ourselves, having a companion to be with during these times can be a heartwarming experience! 

I am a spiritual director.  If you are interested in knowing more about spiritual direction or doing spiritual direction with me, contact me at 920.793.3530. To subscribe to my blog see: MollyLaFond.com

Fog

The weather channel predicted fog this morning on the Lakeshore and indeed it was foggy. As I was driving to a friend's house to spend the day in the kitchen with her I looked down the road way ahead and it was impossible to see trees or anything beyond a block away.

I wondered if I needed to turn around and abandon my plans.It was obvious to me that if I simply kept my eyes within the space I was driving it actually was possible to see very adequately with no need to be frightened. So, I continued.

Have you ever had situations in your life that when you looked far ahead  and that task or journey looked so daunting that you abandoned your initial energies in the process?  It could have been a journey trying to stop an addiction; it could actually have been a physical trip, getting scared not knowing every road and turn. 

How much "fog" do each of us encounter every day?  How often are we not able to see the road way beyond us? It could be the "fog" of behaviors that bring great consequences such as a lawsuit, court, possibly, even jail or prison. Maybe that "fog" has even brought you suicidal thoughts.

Most situations, probably all, always have various options if we just think them through. Perhaps just staying in "this block" where visibility is clearer, maybe sitting tight and doing nothing, and yes, maybe even starting over until the fog clears.  It is amazing that there probably is not much fog that needs to make us turn around and give up our plans completely. Delays? Maybe. 

(If you are inspired by any of my posts I invite you to share them with your family and friends. Thank you! )

I am a spiritual director and if you would like to make an appointment with me to do spiritual direction I can be reached at 920.793.3530. If you would like to subscribe to my blog see: MollyLaFond.com

Falling Leaves

I don't remember having such a late fall like it has been this year. It has been warmer than normal; we haven't even had our furnace on yet. As I watch leaves fall from the trees it has given me some "pondering time" watching the process. 

Have you ever thought of what "falling leaves" each of us goes through as we live our daily lives in a marriage, a family, a work place or other settings? There are so many things we must let go of in order to make things work out. Siblings learn to play with one another, sharing toys, not getting everything they want. Spouses must let go of many things in a marital relationship. 

As I watch the leaves fall, knowing the good times of summer are over once again, shorter days prevail, snow and ice are not far away, I am saddened. Saddened until I realize that this cycle needs to happen in order for the next season to come. St. Mother Theresa writes, "We learn humility through accepting humiliations cheerfully."  I had never thought of this before but it makes sense. 

So, I imagine the trees experiencing "humiliations" as the leaves fall, bare once again. Cheerfully?  Yes, just look at the beautiful weather of fall!  The grand oak or stately maple, or each of us...spring will come once again. Humility is a grand quality to have.  With humility nothing will touch us!  Let the leaves fall! What a beautiful season!! 

I am a spiritual director and can be reached at 920.793.3530 if you would like to make an appointment to do spiritual direction with me. I see clients in either Two Rivers or Crivitz, WI. If you would like to subscribe to my blog see: MollyLaFond.com

Fall is Here

Well, another summer is gone, fall is  here. 'Tis the time to begin "battening down" the yard for winter.  Trees are changing color; leaves are falling. The yard is tilled, grass seed is in. I don't know about you but something happens inside of me, too, this time of year. I am in a higher gear of accomplishing things around the house but as far as that goes, I feel an increased urgency to deepen myself on a spiritual realm. Ever feel this way? 

Maybe the rest of the world is in a different mode, too. The phones have been ringing, retreats and days of reflection are in the planning stages. Calendars are being filled. It just seems to be a different beat of the drum compared to summer. There is an excitement in the air. 

I think autumn is a transition time of year. Summer is gone, winter not quite here.  How do each of us deal with those transition times of our life?  Do we look forward to what is to come? Do we get in a slump at saying goodbye to the familiar times? Are we trusting that what is to come will offer us something heartwarming and growth-filled, too! Fall is here. Wonder what's coming?!!

I am a spiritual director and taking new clients. If you would like to make an appointment to do spiritual direction with me, call 920.793.3530.  I have offices in Two Rivers and Crivitz, WI. To subscribe to my blog, see:MollyLaFond.com

St. Marianne Cope, Syracuse, N.Y.

Have you ever simply entrusted your day to the divine, whom I personally call the Holy Spirit, to guide, guard and protect you? Amazing things e happened to three of us these past two weeks when we traveled east, in order to make a pilgrimage. Our specific destination was in Canada at the Basilica of St. Anne de Beaupre.  One day's details were special. 

As we were heading south out of Canada I had prayed specifically to St. Christopher, the patron saint of travels, to intercede for us for a safe trip and to take us where we needed to be. We had made several stops in several churches and personally, I had had my fill of of stops and was really ready to get home. Travel had been slow because of various and sundry reasons. 

Coming down I-81 my friend asked if we could stop in one more church somewhere along I-81. We were heading toward Syracuse. Hearing that there were about 6-7 beautiful churches there I crankily told her "just one!" All arrows on the web pointed to the Museum and Shrine of St. Marianne Cope. Also, a "prayer service" would begin at 2:30 pm...just about when we would arrive. 

Well, to say the least, as I was parking the person in charge was waiting for me to park the car, telling me to park next to the entrance. She then began the program, personalizing the Seven Sorrows of Mary, which brought the 3 of us all to tears; it was so touching.  Then, being late and not having eaten, I was trying to move us along so we could eat. With that, sister corralled us, inviting/insisting we come into their little kitchenette to eat leftovers from a little celebration they had had as they were sending off one of the sisters to Hawaii for three months. 

Then we shopped in the gift shop, hearing more about St. Marianne Kope and her impact on the people of Hawaii with Hansen's Disease, often referred to as leprosy. This saint has done for those with Hansen's disease, I believe, as much as what Mother Teresa has done for the poor of Calcutta and elsewhere. 

This day was only one example of what happened to us when we specifically entrusted ourselves to God's divine will during this trip... too many times to call it a co-incident.

I encourage you to watch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qswli_NzRyU    If you are ever in Syracuse it would be worth your while to stop in at this lovely shrine and museum. It is right next to the hospital complex there. Also, their Facebook page is also worth the time. Who knows what might happen when you "stumble" onto this page also!! God is good all the time!


I am a spiritual director with availability of appointments in either Two Rivers or Crivitz, WI.  I invite you to subscribe to my blog at MollyLaFond.com. If you would like to do spiritual direction with me, contact me at 920.793.3530.

Our Spiritual LIfe

Being a spiritual director challenges my own spirituality, keeping me "on my toes."  My personal spirituality is also tied deeply to my faith affiliation and its traditions, which is the Catholic Church. This is something I cannot just talk "about" but I must indeed live it. Each spiritual director is called to be true to his or her own spirituality, in whatever way they see fit.  

As I went through my spiritual direction training, I found it very interesting to meet individuals along the whole spectrum of religiosity, formal affiliations with a particular faith basis, as well as those with no affiliation.  My sometimes narrow past was broadened quite a bit after learning more about other belief systems, which included not only Christianity but Judaism, Islam, Native American spirituality and those who simply say they are "spiritual but not religious". 

Each of us, spiritual director or not,  should be true to ourselves and continue to develop our spirituality they way we see fit.  Each one of us is called to be the best person we can be; that includes the physical, emotional as well as spiritual side of us. How we do it is up to each of us. Personally, I believe spiritual direction is a wonderful way to do this. 

If you would like to consider spiritual direction for yourself, why not make a phone call today. I'll answer any questions you might have. An hour may make the world of difference for your spiritual life and a wonderful gift to yourself! 

I offer two locations for my practice: Two Rivers or Crivitz, WI. To subscribe to my blog see: MollyLaFond.com or call 920.793.3530 for an appointment. 

Areas of Interest

This past week I spent much time at the airport as my brother's plane was delayed, coming from Chicago. We ran into 2 folks I have been acquainted with for many years.  Our paths have crossed at various times over the years. This time gave us the opportunity to visit, which certainly helped time pass as all of us waited. At one point, one of them asked me about my business as a spiritual director and my main areas of strength and interest. 

So, as I reflect further, I thought maybe you, my readers, would be interested to know what I see as my areas of strength and interest in my spiritual direction business.  One area for me certainly is the recovering clients who struggle with addictions. Along with addictions, mental health issues and medical issues certainly are in my arena, since I have oodles of years working in healthcare. 

Having facilitated grief groups for nearly 25 years, my heart holds a special spot for those experiencing loss, of any sort. Since I am in the "retirement years", this is another group that I certainly resonate with. It also dawned on me that understanding religious communities is in my comfort zone as is prayer, community life and spirituality. My husband and I have no children so issues surrounding raising a family are not my strong suit. 

Even though I may have had a wealth of past experiences spiritual directors are not limited to those few areas of comfort in their life. Training and ongoing education continue to broaden one's capabilities and understanding of situations beyond personal experiences. Sometimes, the "school of hard knocks", disappointments, failings and shortcomings bring a wealth of capability and compassion in listening and understanding others.

I am grateful to be a person that God can use to help others in some small way as a spiritual director! God continues to make straight with many of my crooked lines and I am very blessed to be a pencil in His hands, as Mother Teresa used to say! 

If you are interested in doing spiritual direction with me, contact me at 920.793.3530. To subscribe to my blog posts see: MollyLaFond.com

A Brother's Love

How do you know someone loves you?  No, I'm not talking about the gushy, romantic, erotic love, but the deep love of a family member or friend.  This past week I felt a love that was simply amazing...my brother spent a week with us at our place up north. 

Dan works hard and there's nothing he loves more than to just "veg" and watch a campfire burn.  He also spent a lot of his time trying to "train" our cat, Pepper, to sit on his lap.  However, the week got interesting.  I had many tasks to complete there before the end of the week for various and sundry reasons.

I really didn't want to ask him to help me, not wanting to impose on his "relaxing time" but he thought nothing of helping me with what I had to do.  To me, it was major, because what would take me hours by myself took a fraction of the time together. He never said "I love you", he just saw things that I had mentioned and went ahead and did them. To me, this is love. 

His acts of generosity with his time and energy spoke volumes to me. Flying and spending time with us speaks volumes to me. Letting his own chores go and now returning home to catch up on his own work speaks volumes to me.  I know I'm repeating myself but that's OK, because this simply says, "my brother loves me." 

Have you ever experienced this kind of love from a relative or friend? My brother may send me a thank you for having him, but I am sending him a note thanking him for his generosity of time, energy, and especially his love!! My heart is full-up with gratitude and much love for my brother.  It was an amazing week!  Thank you, Dan, very much!!  

What To Talk About?

A very interesting phenomenon  occurs once in a while in my spiritual direction appointments, personally, and with those who do spiritual direction with me. I have gone to spiritual direction and have said, “I absolutely don’t know what to talk about!  Nothing major is hitting my brain or my heart to bring out."

I have observed, with amazement, when a client sits and talks about many things, seemingly trivial and disconnected.  Then, as if a switch had flipped, the spiral goes deeper, and deeper, inside.  What is inside comes out with expression and emotions.

It's not uncommon for a directee/seeker to come to the end of a session and then comment about no need to worry about what to talk about because by the end of the hour something very deep came up to process. It amazes me every time I observe this. 

There is a beauty of spiritual direction that is sometimes hard to explain.   I am the physical body as spiritual director in an appointment but the divine, which I call the Holy Spirit, is the true Spiritual Director. I have another chair in the room as a visual reminder to both of us.  This helps me to get out of my own way and call on God or the divine to be with us both.

I have never been let down in an appointment.  There have been times that I have blundered, getting in my own way, but most times the peace at the end of our time tells me that God is bigger than me and can make straight lines out of crooked ones!  I hope to continue letting Him.

So, if you have a thought to contact a spiritual director or would like to talk with me or want to make an appointment, but don’t know what to talk about, don’t let that stop you!  You may be amazed.  This is something you can try for one time or several times, until you get a feel for what you want to do.

I am a spiritual director and offer appointments in Two Rivers or Crivitz, WI. Call to talk with me at 920.793.3530 or to subscribe to my blog, see: MollyLaFond.com

Our Mortality

It seems with such a short summer this year I am hearing, "my, where does time go?" This comment gives me pause to consider "time" in a different context, that of facing our mortality. Well,we all are facing our mortality, some sooner than others.  Spiritual direction is a wonderful arena in which to discuss this journey.

Have you ever had a conversation with an individual and something brought you to this topic and with it one's spirituality and relationship with the divine? A friend mentioned to me "the older I have become, the more focused I am regarding my relationship with God." This conversation also brought up other concerns of: prayer, heaven, purgatory, and other things. 

Several years ago my younger sister had a fourteen month nightmare with cancer before she died, which became a very poignant time for several of us because of all her fears, questions and "getting right with God." Sharing these discussions with her challenged some of my own beliefs and brought me much closer to my own heart; it was also a blessing for me to have a spiritual director to talk things over with. 

By having a spiritual companion a dying person can come to a true peace if they have been allowed to express their concerns. This allows them to come to their own convictions. The atmosphere of spiritual direction trusts that the divine entity is the real spiritual director in the session not imposing personal beliefs onto the dying person.   Spiritual direction can facilitate a very calm, accepting atmosphere as that person transitions from this world into the next. 

Because time does fly, especially as we get older, no matter how long we may have, spiritual direction can be invaluable. There doesn't have to be a major situation, like death, facing us; it could simply be that time in life when these concerns come to mind. If you yourself wonder who to turn to or know of someone who might appreciate a listening ear, consider spiritual direction. It could be a huge gift!

I am a spiritual director with offices in Two Rivers and Crivitz, WI. If you would like to do spiritual direction with me, contact me at 920.793.3530. To read more or to subscribe to my blog, see:MollyLaFond.com

Addictions and Spiritual Direction

Do you know anyone who has fought any addiction?  What a stupid question, huh?  Perhaps you are in the middle of one yourself.  Often, whatever that addiction is, be it alcohol, food, gambling, sex, etc. etc., our attention has been taken away from other priorities of work, family, self-care and God. Recovery begins a whole other process, trying to get back to healthy living and right relationships.

Many times that person had a warped sense of the divine before recovery. Sometimes beliefs that were instilled in us as children no longer support our belief system now. This can leave the addicted person with a fear that spiritual direction means (s)he needs to talk about their spirituality or religious beliefs.  This couldn’t be further from the truth.  

Because of the addictions there usually has been much wreckage in that person’s life, now wondering how to right the wrongs, how to communicate, how to put it all into perspective. Often, family and personal relationships have been so fractured there really are few others to turn to during this recovery process. This is where spiritual direction or spiritual companioning can really offer a safe atmosphe for this road to recovery.

Along with a person with addictions, the family system is also a challenged entity.  Frustration, helplessness, and possibly hopelessness become part of the tapestry of coping, not knowing where to turn. A spiritual director will receive all the questions and emotions one may bring to the session.  This time together should be one of deep listening and compassion.

A spiritual director with some knowledge in areas of recovery, codependency and the 12 Steps can be a wonderful sounding board and guide. Just having someone who will not judge nor condemn is major in healing many of life’s woes. If the pain and circumstance of addiction, or living with an addicted individual, have you caught in a web not knowing where to turn, consider calling me for spiritual direction.  Give it a try.  What have you got to lose?

I am a spiritual director with 27 years of working with recovery issues.I am now taking new appointments.  If you would like to do spiritual direction with me, call 920.793.3530 or to see my blog, go to: MollyLaFond.com

Retirement and Spiritual Direction

Isn’t it amazing how in every stage of life there are various conversations for each: boyfriends, jobs, family, and then retirement?  I remember how Mary Kay Ash, of Mary Kay Cosmetics, used to say what each age group needed. When she got to those over 65 she emphatically said, what they needed was “cash”!  Only now, in my 60’s do I completely understand what she meant. Many of us never gave retirement a thought, until it hit. Retirement can bring a plethora of concerns, not just financial.  In these specific times, spiritual direction or spiritual companioning can be a huge personal gift.

Retirement years bring many topics to an intersection of query, including finances. To those who are not in this era, retirement and how spiritual direction may be beneficial, may not make sense. To others, however, it does.

One issue that comes to mind is the “sandwich” individuals who not only are in the retirement years but also are raising their grand kids; at the same time some are challenged “taking care” of elderly parents. Put in the mix one’s own shattered dreams/expectations, personal health issues and care, declining abilities and increased fears, angers and resentments…a real quandary. 

Perhaps earlier than planned “retirement” from an occupation or death of a spouse has left a person with no one to process feelings with leaving the survivor in a very compromised state. Maybe there is a distance from other family members with questions of how to plan the future alone.  Seeing the divine in such times can be quite challenging. These are some real opportunities that spiritual companioning can be very fruitful for a retiree.

Often, retirement may be simple and easy to navigate but I bet if one were to be honest, this time of transition from the “doing” years to the “being” years can still offer some concern. Think about it.  Might you consider spiritual direction for yourself or know of someone personally who might benefit?  Call if you would like an appointment!

Molly is a spiritual director and taking new appointments. If you would like to do spiritual direction with her, call 920.793.3530 or to subscribe to her blog see MollyLaFond.com

Everyday Folk

I hope you are continuing this journey with me as I write more about details of spiritual direction. Every day people like you and me may ask what's in it for us?  Why in the world would that interest us? After all most of us would rate ourselves in the ordinary, every day caliber, in no high ranking position, with every day responsibilities.  Maybe we are parents, college students, factory workers, or just have a day that we go to work, do our jobs, come home and repeat this the next day.

When I first went to spiritual direction the only format I noticed was that I did the talking and the spiritual director did the listening.  Oh, once in a while she asked a question that encouraged me to go deeper into whatever I was talking about.  I walked out of each session thinking to myself that it was a rare time in my life that I really got to talk, to feel my feelings with no one trying to fix or change a thing! Once in awhile I needed to discern a situation; spiritual direction helped.  It was very refreshing, to say the least.

As my trust grew I brought more and more to each session. I was surprised that nothing was off the table to discuss...nothing! I didn't go with goals, things to work on or big questions; I did, however, trust my divine guide to prompt me as to what to talk about. That worked for me! One time, after a long period of time, I couldn't figure it all out as to how or what I was doing; I simply asked, "Am I doing OK?" And she reassured me that I was doing just fine so I continued trusting her and doing what I was doing...talking! 

She didn’t prod, probe nor react…just really listened well and companioned me!  That was probably the most surprising to me. Some of us come from a prodding, probing background where listening is not high on any totem pole!  Having someone just be a spiritual companion can be very life-giving. The spiritual direction process also believes that the divine within each of us will bring to light answers we might be seeking without being told by another what we should/should not do.

The neutrality of the sessions was a pleasant surprise. I didn’t understand, from the spiritual director’s side, what all went into this time with a client because listening, with minimal input, is by no means simple for a director. I didn't learn this until my own training.  From the outside looking in, it appeared that the director did nothing much! WRONG!!

It was amazing to me, how everything affected my own prayer life and connection with God. One thing that stood out though was that she was certainly NOT trying to get me to change, to become something I wasn’t nor did I think I had to get callouses on my knees to be “good enough”!! I didn't have to talk about my spirituality nor religious beliefs, even though she always had an eye on the divine in our conversation.  I was OK just the way I was!  So, I found out that spiritual direction IS for the ordinary folk after all!  

Molly LaFond is taking new clients. If you would like to speak with her or make an appointment she can be reached at 920 793.3530 or for further information and to subscribe to her blog go to: MollyLaFond.com

Spiritual Direction

Over the past few years I have been writing posts for my blog with a dual purpose: first, for you, my readers, to get a glimpse of my spirituality in everyday life and, secondly, to encourage you to consider spiritual direction for yourself. I now want to focus on writing specifically about the beauty and benefits of spiritual direction during various times in one's life.

I remember when first hearing about spiritual direction it seemed to point to those in some sort of a religious environment or someone studying religious interests. I use this as a beginning point; maybe some of you have had similar assumptions.  I will broaden out from this point in future posts. 

Spiritual direction is certainly recommended for those in religious formation and is a wonderful process to assist those considering this ministry.  There are many questions and discernment is needed when considering the religious life.  Having a person who is versed in religious life, like a director who is a religious, priest or someone who previously had been in that culture, certainly has the understanding and background to companion another. 

Spiritual direction is no longer just for the group of folks discerning religious ministry of various sorts. The secret is out and in my future posts I will continue this train of thought, sharing how spiritual direction can help a variety of individuals, not only the religious but the spiritual but not religious sector.  Hopefully, my future posts will make it clear as to what a gift spiritual direction can be.

Below is a link to Theresa Blythe's post and in-depth article Spiritual Direction and the Seminarian. She is director of the Hesychia School of Spiritual Direction at the Redemptorist Renewal Center, Tucson. 

Stay tuned!

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/spiritualdirection101/2016/01/spiritual-direction-and-the-seminarian/

Molly LaFond is a spiritual director and if you would like to do spiritual direction with her she can be reached at 920.793.3530 or go to MollyLaFond.com to subscribe to her blog.

Trees

Thirty-one years ago we planted a tree in our yard at home, a huge, beautiful red maple.It was shortly after mom had died. My brother, Dan, was here for a few days during this time. Several days ago, to make a long story short, we noticed one of the two trunks was cracked and completely open all the way to the ground. We needed to call the tree guy immediately in order to save a tragedy with a coming storm later that day...enough to postpone it's complete removal tomorrow. 

I love trees.  Roots thrust deep into the earth, the trunk growing to heights beyond compare and branches reaching in all directions. The shade this tree has offered us, refuge for birds, squirrels and other animals, leave me in awe. Memories flood my soul remembering another maple at home I used to climb as a kid in our side yard. 

That maple was my escape.  I could get away from frustrations at school. The branch held me securely holding me in a snug way as I struggled with my feelings of doubt, hurts, misunderstandings. The leafy limbs hid me from intruders. This tree today in our yard reminds me of mom, her death, my brother's visit and all the years of majesty she has given us.

Are there trees in your life that are a sanctuary for you, a holy place where you can rest. I don't climb too many trees any longer but in my mind I can still lean my head gently against this old tree and entertain gentle voices in my head that call my name as I remember. How unique it is to have a moment to recapture such memories.


Molly LaFond is accepting new clients for spiritual direction.  If you would like to make an appointment with her, call 920.793.3530 or to subscribe to her blog see MollyLaFond.com

Orlando

I have been glued to the news the past day regarding the Orlando tragedy.  My heart is saddened at the violence and hatred toward the LGBT community, there and around the world.  Of all the comments made by many people about this horrific event, one sentence that keeps running non-stop in my mind: "love is love, is love, is love..."

Then I remember that it is said, "Good will not be outdone by evil." I hope not! Let us continue to pray for the victims, the dead and injured, their families and loved ones, all the responders and healthcare workers. Let us pray too, that those who want to do harm to others be touched by God's grace to do good instead. Amen.

Thank a Vet!

I want to take this opportunity, Memorial Day weekend, to thank all the vets who have given and sacrificed, many with their lives, for each and every one of us.  We live in the best country we could be in. 

I was at a meeting yesterday and a friend of mine put it very succinctly as she shared how "what is NOT said" from vets speaks very profoundly...memories that haunt them, too painful to speak. 

To friends with whom I have been out of touch for many years, to present friends, to acquaintances and strangers alike, thank you for your service!  We, as a nation, would not have the freedoms we have without you.   God bless you, and God bless America!


If you would like to make an appointment with Molly LaFond for spiritual direction she can be reached at 920. 793.3530. You may also subscribe to my blog at: MollyLaFond.com

Not Quite Summer

Wow, I can't believe how the month of May has flown by, Memorial Day weekend is nearly here and "life" is nipping at my hem and I realize I have not written anything for a while!  So, rather than beat myself up any further I'll just say that I will get back to you as soon as I pick the asparagus, put another load in the washer, help the neighbors with some end of life papers, talk with a long lost friend whose sister died and....

Thank you for your patience!  Life just jumped on the fast track!  Enjoy the wonderful days we are  having!  NO snow, no ice...yup, a few mosquitoes!  Get some good "squitter dope" and that will help! It's not quite summer but it may as well be! 

The Milk Maid

There was a farmer who was having a heck of a time getting a calf into the barn.  The farmer tried pushing the calf into the barn when a milkmaid came along.  She moistened her thumb with milk from a pail of milk, stuck her thumb into the calve's mouth and led him into the barn.  No pushing required!

Ever find yourself in a life situation similar to this? Have you ever wanted to scream, to "push the button" trying to make something happen faster, now, today, not tomorrow?  I was reminded of that today when a neighbor stopped by and shared his experience while helping someone but then the person he was helping was treating him more like a hired hand rather than a gift sent by another person. 

Every day I make a review of my day and ponder whether I have been like the farmer:  pushy, aggressive, demanding or antagonistic. The story of the milkmaid comes to mind. 

How do each one of us treat others especially during frustrating situations? Do we get pushy, trying to push and push, trying to get our way across?  Being calm and assertive rather than loud and aggressive is a challenge for many. Maybe a visual of a milkmaid leading a calf into the barn should be a reminder for us each and every day.   


If you would like to do spiritual direction with me, I have openings in either of two locations: Two Rivers or Crivitz, WI. I can be reached at 920.793.3530. To subscribe to my blog visit MollyLaFond.com 

Birth Day

Today is my birth day!  Not that this is anything new...it really lands on the same date every year!!! Honest! And with each year, I get older and older.  I bet some of you reading this may say, "gosh, Molly, you must be really hard up for ideas of what to write about...now you're bragging about your birthday!"

No, not at all.  Have you ever pondered the beauty, the miracle, the gift that your birth has brought to this world?  I do think of the movie, "It's a Wonderful Life" that shows every Christmas.  What in my world would not be what it is had I not been born?  What would be entirely different without my presence? What about each and every one of us? 

How do each of us honor our birth day each year?  We are so unique, to say the least.  Yes, I have character defects.  Well, don't we all.  I would like to have the qualities more like a giraffe than a jackal...a big heart, compassionate communication rather than competitive or critical.  Isn't that an ongoing journey, though? 

So, happy birth day to each and every one of us on our special day this year.   Let us honor our special day, our birth day and give it the recognition it should have. We are unique in every way! As the saying goes, "God don't make junk!"  What an impact one person has...then multiply that. Just imagine. 


If you would like to schedule a spiritual direction appointment with me, call 920. 793.3530.  To subscribe to my blog, see: MollyLaFond.com

Opening Fishing 2016

On dock fishing!

Opening fishing was the same weekend as Mother's Day this year. This time of year always brings me memories of my own mom and amazing, this memory also has to do with fishing. 

Dad bought an old school bus and it was converted into a camper. It had bunk beds against the back door and then we would put fold up army cots down the isle. Benches lined the side up front. It was amazing how many we could fit into that thing as we drove to our favorite lake about an hour from home. 

Then the fishing began.  It was mom who patiently sat on the dock with us kids, with bobbers and worms on the end of our line, waiting for bluegills to bite.  The least little ripple on the water brought shouts of, "I have a fish on!!"  Nope, it wasn't a fish, mom explained, until the bobber went under water, then that was our cue to set the hook!  

I always smile as I recall the many things my mom taught my siblings and me over all our growing up years. Of course, memories are not a straight line thing. Sometimes these good memories are intertwined with not so happy times and times of struggles. These times give me pause for gratitude, though, for the person all these situations have made me in being the person that I am. 

What about you?  Are there times of gratitude in your memories that make you pause, be grateful, perhaps even to say a prayer for your mom, for the person you have become because of her, or possibly in spite of her! It's amazing the power opening fishing weekend has when it falls on the same weekend as Mother's Day, isn't it!


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Mother's Day

This says it all!

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1199646743382368&set=a.424210947592622.118244.100000111605332&type=3


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Power of Positivity

This says it all.  Enjoy!

https://www.facebook.com/powerofpositivity/videos/10153481582812371/

Spiritual Direction in Recovery

Below is a site you may find very interesting especially if you, or someone you know, is in recovery for addictions of any sort. Teresa Blythe has a wonderful post on its benefit and how spiritual direction is helpful for individuals in recovery.  

http://www.patheos.com/blogs/spiritualdirection101/2016/03/spiritual-direction-and-the-person-in-recovery/


If you wish to make an appointment for spiritual direction with me, call 920 793.3530. I am able to offer appointments in either Two Rivers or Crivitz, WI. I can also be emailed me at: Molly@MollyLaFond.com

The Retiree

http://teresablythe.net/2016/03/07/spiritual-direction-and-the-retiree/

With a population that is dancing into retirement more and more these days this site may be of interest to you related to spiritual direction. Teresa is the director of the Hesychia School of Spiritual Direction in Tucson where I got my training and certificate.  She is a wonderful blogger and I find her posts very interesting. I hope you will too!


If you are interested in doing spiritual direction with Molly LaFond, call 920.793.3530 or see: MollyLaFond.com for more information. 

Clay Balls

       

A man was exploring caves by the Seashore.  In one of the caves he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls.  It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake.   They didn't look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of the cave with him.  As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could.  He thought little about it, until he dropped one of the clay balls and it cracked open on a rock .  Inside was a beautiful, precious stone! 

Excited, the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls.  Each contained a similar treasure.  He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels in the 20 or so clay balls he had left. Then it struck him.  He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves.  Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he had just thrown it away!  

It's like that with people.  We look at someone, maybe even ourselves, and we see the external clay vessel.  It doesn't look like much from the outside.  It isn't always beautiful or sparkling, so we discount it.  

We see that person as less important than someone more beautiful or stylish or well known or wealthy.  But we have not taken the time to find the treasure hidden inside that person. 

There is a treasure in each and every one of us.  If we take the time to get to know that person, and if we ask God to show us that person the way He sees them, then the clay begins to peel away and the brilliant gem begins to shine forth.

May we not come to the end of our lives and find out that we have thrown away a fortune in friendships because the gems were hidden in bits of clay. May we see the people in our world as God sees them.

I am so blessed by the gems of friendship I have with you.  Thank you for looking beyond my clay vessel.  APPRECIATE EVERY SINGLE THING YOU HAVE, ESPECIALLY YOUR FRIENDS! LIFE IS TOO SHORT AND FRIENDS ARE TOO FEW!     (Author Unknown)